You Can Overcome Negativity

You Can Overcome Negativity


Aya Fubara Eneli, M.A., J.D.


Beauty blossoms despite the challenges

Negativity. It is all around us. It is in the words we speak, the stories we share, the songs we sing, for some, it may feel like it is in the very air we breathe. It weighs us down. It holds us back, limits our dreams, stifles our creativity, robs us of our present, and steals our future. It keeps us mired in a state of endless gloom and depression. Like quicksand,
it will suck up the lives of those who come too close to us.

Shad Helmstetter in Homemade states, “As much as 77% of everything we think is negative and counterproductive and works against us. People who grow up in an average household hear “No” or are told what they can’t do more than 148,000 times by the time they reach age 18. Result: Unintentional negative programming.”

Perhaps, you have come to the realization that you are a rather negative and pessimistic person. Or maybe, you have someone in your life that you love dearly, but whose negativity literally sucks the air out of every room they enter. The good news is that we can de-program the negativity and re-program ourselves to be positive, encouraging and loving. The not-so-good news is that you can’t re-program anyone else; they have to choose for
themselves how they want to live.

We can spend all day talking about what led to your negative state, or you can choose to admit that being negative brings you precious lasting joy. Maybe people came by initially out of empathy, now, those who stay do so out of duty. There is a better way to live.

One major element of success is the ability to control one’s thoughts, which in turn will lead to a more fulfilling life. If you are finally ready to break free from negativity and start enjoying your life again, try the following steps:

Meditate on good things only. The Bible says, “Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”

Limit your interaction with other negative people. Misery likes company. If a gossip comes around, shut the person up or move on. If you are living with or caring for a person with a negative outlook, firmly and lovingly let them know that they are welcome to their opinions, but not welcome to rain on your parade. Ignore them whenever they get negative and as much as possible, cut short the conversation or leave the room if they persist.

Daily feed yourself a healthy dose of the proof of the power of positive thinking. Read positive and encouraging books and articles. Read the Bible. Listen to happy and uplifting music. Read inspirational stories and listen to motivational speeches and sermons.

Get around other positive individuals. The more you are around people who are uplifting and positive in their outlook , despite their circumstance, the more uplifted and positive you will become too.

Keep a gratitude journal in which you write down what you are grateful for each day.

Maybe you were hoping for the next miracle drug, but the truth is that the power to change how you think, see and react to the world lies within you. . Exercise the power to create your positive life. It is all in your head. I wish you an abundant life.

Aya Fubara Eneli is a best-selling author, Christian Life Coach, Motivational Speaker and Attorney. Her life’s purpose is to empower and equip people to live up to their highest potential. For more information or to book her for your next event, visit, or e-mail her at