When is Enough, Enough?

When is Enough, Enough?


Aya Fubara Eneli, M.A., J.D.

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Do you have the common sense of at least that of a five year old? I was trying to get all 5 of my kids loaded up in the car to make their tennis lessons when I noticed my five year old taking off his shoes I had just laced. One minute, he was itching to get to tennis lessons, and now he was trying to take his shoe off.  Exasperated, I looked to him for an explanation. You know, one of those looks that convey it all without words. Why purposely sabotage his time playing a game he loves?

He attempted to run towards the garage, but then stopped and ripped the shoe off his foot and began vigorously shaking it “Mom, I tried, but I can’t play in these shoes.” Those were literally brand new shoes so what could possibly be the problem? A pebble dropped out. Putting his shoe back on, he said, “Now, I can play. Let’s go, Mom.”

It made me think about how so many of us go through life with proverbial pebbles in our shoes. We have habits, issues, relationships and ways of thinking that cause us pain and discomfort and hinder our ability to successfully pursue our goals, but we never get to a point where we exercise enough courage to admit there is a problem and do something about it.

We learn to live with the pain, the put-downs, the low self-esteem, the addiction, the debt, the weight, the shame, the guilt, the illness and we get to a point where we can’t even imagine life any other way. Don’t you think today is a great time to draw the line in the sand and declare Enough is Enough and create a new reality?

Perhaps, you are intentionally sabotaging your success for many of the reasons that initially had my son thinking he could make it to his lesson without first getting the pebble out. He was afraid of how I would react to his delay. He was concerned about upsetting his siblings who would be affected if he stopped to take care of the pebble. He wasn’t really sure what was causing the discomfort in his shoe, and there was no guarantee that just shaking the shoe would take care of the problem. He didn’t want to look stupid in front of others.

How about you? What’s holding you back? The fear of losing the approval of others? The fear of looking like you don’t have it all together? Concern that you may not have what it takes to improve your situation, so you don’t even try? Anxiety over how loved ones may react? Whatever it is, it is time to say enough to any undesirable circumstances to which you are subjecting yourself. The path to freedom begins in your mind. First, acknowledge there is an issue. Secondly, commit to whatever it takes to address the issue head-on. Seek out others who have faced and overcome similar circumstances and learn from them. Put your trust in God. Find a community of people who will keep you encouraged and hold you accountable to your new standard. Hold on to this truth, the inconvenience or discomfort you will experience as you begin to face your demons is only temporary and will be replaced by a deep and abiding peace and joy as you begin to live out the new and improved you. I wish you an abundant life.

Aya Fubara Eneli is a best-selling author, Christian Life Coach, Motivational Speaker and Attorney. Her life’s purpose is to empower and equip people to live up to their highest potential. For more information, visit www.ayaeneli.com, follow her on twitter @ayaeneli or e-mail her at info@ayaeneli.com. Join her for an inspirational and practical webinar on being Your Extraordinary You. Register now at www.ayaeneli.com/special-events.php.