Make Yourself Irresistibly Attractive

Make Yourself More Attractive


Aya Fubara Eneli, M.A., J.D.


We attract who and what we are. If you are not seeing what you want in your life, it may be a sign that you are overdue for a makeover from the inside out. True and lasting results come from change on the inside.

I challenge you to choose to become irresistibly attractive to yourself. Ever wonder why the
Bible teaches us to love one another as we love ourselves? I erroneously thought it was selfish to concentrate on self-love, but the more understanding I gain, the more I realize that you cannot give what you do not have. In other words, if you don’t love yourself, you certainly cannot love another…not really. If you don’t find yourself attractive, others won’t either.

Self-love is key to becoming and feeling attractive and being able to then attract the good
things we want in our lives. Deepak Chopra states it this way, “The secret of attraction is to love yourself. Attractive people judge neither themselves nor others. They are open to gestures of love. They think about love, and express their love in every action.”

Think about the last person or thing you were attracted to. What was it that drew you in? Was it their confidence, their joy, or their discipline or was it how that thing or
environment made you feel about yourself? Make a comprehensive list.

Now, think about yourself. What makes you attractive to yourself, what makes you unattractive? Decide today to systematically get rid of everything that you find unattractive about yourself, but be sure that you are not eliminating traits and features
that make you characteristically you. The last thing you want to become is a carbon copy of someone else.

Try the following tips to become more attractive by learning to really love yourself.

1.)  Stop doing the things you know are bad for you and start taking better care of
yourself. If you smoke, drink, overeat and generally abuse your body, stop it!
Replace those habits with things that will make you stronger and healthier. If
you hang out with negative people, limit or eliminate the interaction.

2.)  Stop waiting for tomorrow and begin to live each day to its fullest. Sometimes we
get so caught up in dreaming about tomorrow that we fail to take full advantage
of the present. Make today count and be the best you can be today and deal
tomorrow when it gets here.

3.)  Stop letting other people steer you in directions you don’t want to go. Not all
conflict is bad. Learn to get comfortable with your intuition and what you know
about yourself and have the courage to stand your ground as necessary.

4.)   Stop comparing yourself to others and deprecating yourself. While humility is a
characteristic and value to emulate, humility means to think of oneself less,
not to think less of oneself. Tearing yourself down (even in jest) is very
unattractive and soon you will start to manifest what you say about yourself.

5.)  Stop whining and start appreciating. My children will tell you “Mommy can’t hear you
when you’re whining.” Please stop whining and complaining and instead find the
good in every situation and focus on that instead. Rather than whine about a
problem, solve it or get away from it. No one wants to be around a person who
is constantly verbally throwing up on them. Practice being a light that dispels
darkness wherever it goes and people and opportunities will be drawn to you.

You have the capability of being as attractive as you choose to be. What choices are you
making? I wish you your abundant life.

Aya Fubara Eneli is a best-selling author, Christian Life Coach, Motivational Speaker and Attorney. Her life’s purpose is to empower
and equip people to live up to their highest potential. For more information or to book her for your next event, visit, or e-mail her at