Leadership that will Transform Your Life

Martin Luther King, Jr speaks at the Rally Against Fear

Leadership that Will Transform Your Life

By Aya Fubara Eneli, M.A., J.D.

If I asked you to describe yourself, would you include the word, leader? When we think of leaders, we typically think of people who by virtue of the positions they hold are empowered to make decisions. But, how about you? I believe that we are all leaders at some level. The question is whether you an effective, ineffective, good, or bad leader.

Lord Montgomery defines leadership as “The capacity and will to rally men and women to a common purpose, and the character which inspires confidence.” A person can lead others only to the extent he or she can first lead him or herself. The accomplishment of all your hopes and dreams depend on the kind of leader you are and choose to become. It is time to step up and make the commitment to be a leader that leaves a lasting and positive legacy. Where do we begin?

To become the kind of leader who can inspire confidence for others to follow in pursuit of a common purpose you must embrace the following tenets.

Take 100% responsibility for your life. Stop making excuses and start making changes.

Be a person of integrity. Integrity is doing the right thing even when no one is watching. You can influence people and have great success, but without integrity, your legacy will be diminished.

Commit to a disciplined life. Know what you are doing and why you are doing it.

Set goals and follow through. Pursue a vision for your life and your community. People want to know where they are going before they choose to follow. Do you have a godly vision for your life?

Explore and understand your life’s purpose and the unique gifts God has endowed you with to accomplish your purpose.

Embrace challenges as an opportunity to lead; to prove yourself and leave a lasting legacy. Never stop learning and striving to be better today than you were yesterday. LEADERS ARE LEARNERS.

Take care of your body and mind. If you weaken yourself, you will never go as far as you could have otherwise.

Become a relationship builder and aim to make people around you better. Figure out what you are good at and become great at it.

Approach every task as though it will be the springboard to your success.

Be willing to sacrifice. A leader is first and foremost a servant. Consider the likes of Mother Teresa, Martin Luther King, Jr., Mahatma Gandhi, Jesus.

Face your realities and develop the courage to do the right things.

Seek wise counsel.

Grow your faith. There may be times when that is all you have.

Each of us influences at least 3 other people. If we would commit to personal excellence, integrity, depth of character, adherence to high morals in the pursuit of a godly vision, we will transform the world. Develop the leader in you.


Join Aya at the Women’s Abundant Life Retreat on May 3-5, 2012 in Belton, Texas. For more information, email info@ayaeneli.com or visit www.ayaeneli.com. Aya Fubara Eneli is a best-selling author, life coach, motivational speaker and columnist.