Last week, I pulled up to my gym and could barely recognize it. There wasn’t a parking spot to be seen. I had to park on the street. The place was jam-packed. Everyone seemed committed to their goals and resolutions to lose weight and get healthier. I wondered how long it would last. As a life coach, I know that 70 percent of resolutions are abandoned within the first 10 days of the year.
A week later, I pulled up to the same gym and I had my choice of any number of parking spots right next to the door. What happened? As I work with my clients and from my own personal experiences, life and laziness happens. It rains. A co-worker upset us. A child lost their glove. The dog had separation anxiety. It doesn’t matter the reason, the bottom line is that we make the decision not to persevere through our challenges and the alternative
is to justify why we quit or postponed our goal yet again.
Listen, every success requires a price to be paid. There are no free rides; and the shortcuts you take actually cost you more down the line. If you have no discipline, you have absolutely nothing!
Consider the story of Coleridge as told by Wm. Barclay. “Coleridge is the supreme example of tragedy of indiscipline. Never did so great a mind produce so little. He left Cambridge University to join the army; he left the army because he could not rub down a horse; he
returned to Oxford and left without a degree. He began a paper called “The Watchman” which lived for ten numbers and then died. It has been said of him, “he lost himself in visions of work to be done, that always remained to be done. Coleridge had every poetic gift but one–the gift of sustained and concentrated effort.” In his head and in his mind he had all kinds of books, as he said, “completed save for transcription.” But the books
were never composed outside of Coleridge’s mind, because he would not face the
discipline of sitting down to write them out. No one ever reached any eminence,
and no one having reached it ever maintained it, without discipline.”
Everything you desire in your life requires discipline. Do you want to be debt free? You have to be disciplined enough to create and live by a budget, work hard (maybe even a second job or home business) and deny yourself to save. Want to lose weight? You have to be disciplined enough to make time to consistently exercise and feed your body in a health
sustaining manner. You have to say ‘No” to gluttony. Want a better marriage? You have to be disciplined enough to love through the great and hard times and consistently work on keeping the fire burning. Want better behaved and successful kids? You have to invest time in them and be disciplined enough to demonstrate excellence with your own behavior. Nothing turns off a child more than hypocrisy.
So, how do you become more disciplined? It is a moment by moment decision that becomes a lifestyle if you persevere. I remember watching best-selling author, John Bevere, preach. He was teaching on being extraordinary for Christ. I looked at him and I could immediately deduce that this wasn’t just a sermon for him, it was how he lived. Later, I spoke with a member of his staff and inquired how Mr. Bevere stayed in such great
shape. I was told, “He exercises daily. Never eats after 6 p.m. and does not touch butter.”
Say what you want, that requires great discipline. But it is a discipline that pays off. Michael Jordon and Kobe Bryant are two of the hardest working basketball players I have known; they are also two of the most successful basketball players ever. Whether during the season or in the off-season, they stay disciplined about their nutrition and training. Nolan Ryan, famed baseball player, would exercise for an hour before a game and an hour afterwards. No wonder he had such success and longevity. Successful writers often log 4-12 hours of writing a day. Bill Gates was so committed to his work and disciplined in his commitment that he jettisoned vacations for 7 years. Now, he can vacation for the rest of
his life he wants to. Doctors and attorneys go to school for over 19 years!
Want to have a great life and see the success of which you dream? Get disciplined. Find an accountability partner to consistently nudge and even kick you when you start to slack. With discipline, you can have everything. Without discipline, you have nothing.
I wish you an abundant life and a prosperous New Year.
Aya Fubara Eneli is a best-selling author, Christian Life Coach, Motivational Speaker and Attorney. Her life’s purpose is to empower and equip people to live up to their highest potential. For more information on her seminars or to book her for your next event, visit https://www.ayaeneli.com, or e-mail her at firstname.lastname@example.org. Sign up for her bootcamp today! www.ayaeneli.com/special-events.php