Honor the Mothers

Honor the Mothers


Aya Fubara Eneli, M.A, J.D.

There I was lying on the examination table wracked with pain. In the background, I could hear my mother’s words over and over again. “You have to do something. She is my daughter. She is my daughter!”  I survived that ordeal as I survived many
others with help from my mother.

It has taken me a while to process, but I do believe that I owe much of my success to my mother’s simple and unwavering declaration, “She is my daughter.” My mother’s love has given me the courage and security to live my life fully. I always know that with her I have a safe place; I have a home. I am her daughter, and she is my mother. Nothing changes that!

On Sunday we will all have the opportunity to honor our mothers. What are your plans? How do you intend to celebrate her and shower her with respect, love, devotion and gratitude? Will your mother feel your love for her?

While I have been blessed with a mother who certainly is a candidate for the Mothers’ Hall of Fame, I know that there are some of you reading this who have less than pleasant memories of your mothers. Regardless of what kind of mother you may have (or think you have), I strongly beseech you to look past her faults and shortcomings and honor her anyway.

My beautiful mother, Dr. Vinolia Fubara, with 1 of her 7 children

Honor her because she gave you life. Honor her because when you love her you facilitate your own healing and happiness. Honor her because by so doing you teach your own children to honor you. Honor her because the Bible commands it and guarantees long life to those who do so.

Honor her for all the late night feedings, diaper changes, meals cooked, hugs and kisses, tears wiped, clothes laundered, books read, homework checked, practices and games and recitals attended. Honor her for knees worn out in prayer on your behalf, for all the sleepless nights worrying about your well-being.

If there is “bad blood” between you and your mother, this is a great time to make amends. Life is too short and too precious to hold grudges. Make the decision to ask for forgiveness and to forgive your mother even if she acknowledges no wrong doing. It matters not whether your actions are rebuffed. Take solace in the knowledge that you did all within your power to make peace.

As you make your plans for this Mother’s Day, be sure to think about what you know your mother loves and particularly pay attention to any hints she may drop. Whether you make your own card or buy one, personalize it so she knows exactly how you feel about her.

Can you write her a love letter? Can you pay off a bill that has been causing her stress? Does her lawn need to be edged? Or perhaps, her home needs a few minor repairs? Can you pay for a vacation or a retreat, plant her a garden, get her car detailed, or even paint her toenails? Maybe she could use a surprise party or spend an idyllic day with you. Can you broker peace between her and an estranged child? Can you pray with her?

Whatever choices you make, please take time to honor all the mothers in your life, whether they are biological, adoptive, spiritual, foster, grand or great-grandmothers.

In all your celebration, be sensitive to the fact that this can be a very painful time for women who are dealing with infertility, have lost a child (or children). Remember, in prayer and deed, mothers of our servicemen and women, and mothers of sick and missing children.

Don’t let Mother’s Day be just another day. Honor the mothers in your life and around you. Happy Mothers Day to all mothers and particularly to my mother, Dr. (Mrs.) Vinolia Fubara. I love you Mommy.

Aya Fubara Eneli is a best-selling author, Christian Life Coach, Motivational Speaker and Attorney. Her life’s purpose is to empower
and equip people to live up to their highest potential. She and her husband
live in Central Texas with their five miraculous children. For more information, visit www.ayaeneli.com, follow her on twitter @ayaeneli or     
e-mail her at info@ayaeneli.com.