For Black People Only and those who Love to Sleep with Black Men

For Black People Only and those who Love to Sleep with Black Men:


If you really are tired of black boys/men being shot down by cops and each other, here is a proven method to bring about positive change.


1.) If you don’t want a child or are not prepared to invest the time and money to raise one, STOP having sex.


2.) If you are currently a baby daddy, pay your child support and more. Your child should not lack or be dependent on government assistance because of your selfishness and irresponsibility.


3.) If you have children, spend quantity and quality time with your children – all your children. Seeing your child once a week for 2 hours during which you take them to a movie or otherwise ignore them is NOT parenting. If you have to live in the same neighborhood as your child, do it. Do whatever it takes to have DAILY drama free contact with your child.


4.) If you have a baby daddy, quit tripping and let him have access to your children.


5.) EVERYBODY who has a child should take at least one parenting class and should read at least one parenting book each year. What you don’t know IS hurting your child.


6.) Sisters, quit being so evil and giving your men a hard time when they want to be active in the lives of the children they had with others. JUST STOP the EVIL!


7.) Sisters, even wild animals know the importance of mate selection. Stop opening your legs for every and anything. Choose carefully with whom you want to procreate. If he skipped on all his other kids why do you think yours will be different? If he is crazy, hello, your offspring will likely be crazy too.


8.) Lead by example. Don’t tell me how hard it is to parent a Black boy in this society, tell me what examples you are setting at home. You can’t run the streets, drink 40s in the middle of the day, not work, not get an education, never darken the door of a church and wonder why your child is emulating you.


9.) If you are an adult Black male and you are not mentoring at least one Black boy, please take several seats and never comment on the state of black boys ever again. If you don’t have time to be part of the solution, you are the problem.


10.) If you are a non-Black sleeping with a Black man. Join the cause and speak up against injustice. Many of you have been strangely silent in the wake of all these killings.


11.) If you are not a member of an organization actively working to make a difference, wake up!!! We need to be organized if we want change. Where is the organized cadre of well-funded attorneys who can take on the system and fight for justice? How many of you pointing fingers and gnashing your teeth are members of any organization actively making a difference in the lives of youth? Are you even registered to vote? Do you vote?


12.) Black people, get just as upset at how we hate each other as we do when others discriminate against us. Seriously, let’s be honest about what we are doing to one another.


Listen, it has all been said before, power concedes nothing without a demand, the price for freedom is eternal vigilance, we must be the change we want to see. Others are putting their money and energy where their mouths are. We are buying weaves, coach purses, game systems, eye lashes and cars we can’t afford. Michael Jackson said, “I’m starting with the man in the mirror.” How about you?


PS/ By the way, I promise to slap the next person I see who says he or she is babysitting their own child. Fool, you should be parenting!!!!


Aya Fubara Eneli is a best-selling author, Christian Life Coach, Motivational Speaker and Attorney. Her life’s purpose is to empower and equip people to live up to their highest potential. For more information or to book her for your next event, visit, or e-mail her at